The Key to a Successful Relationship: Self Love
Are you wondering how could self love be so important in a relationship between two people? I will answer that question with another question, how can you love anyone if you can not love yourself? The answer is you can not. A great analogy is a stewardess on an airplane will always tell you that when the plane is going down, if the cabin is running low on oxygen, to always give yourself the oxygen first before giving it to an infant. If you give it to the infant first, you could pass out from lack of oxygen, and than both of you are goners. The same is true in a relationship; fill yourself up with self love first, and than you have plenty of love to give to your lucky partner.
So what is self love? Self love is not that egotist, self centered, conceited love that unfortunately some people have. These people put their own selfish needs first even when it hurts others. Self love is when you respect yourself enough that you stay out of harmful situations, get your needs met while avoiding hurting others, and take care of your body, mind, and spirit. How do you cultivate self love? The following are tips to create self love in your life:
1. Stop pretending to be someone you are not to impress and/or please someone else. How would you feel if someone you were falling in love with turned out to be an imposter?
2. Be yourself always; if you do not know who you are, then take the journey of self discovery. It takes a lifetime to answer the question “Who Am I?”
3. Do activities that you enjoy: swimming, walking, reading, socializing, taking classes, volunteering, etc.
4. The qualities that you desire in a mate, cultivate those same qualities in yourself.
5. Always see the glass as half full instead of half empty and surround yourself around positive people.
The more you practice the above five suggestion, the more you will love yourself. The more you love yourself, the higher quality people you will attract into your life. The higher quality people that are in your life, the easier it is for “The One” to come into your life.
Copyright 2005
Love Is In The Air
Spring is here, the flowers are blooming, the birds are singing, and love is in the air. It is Mother Nature’s trick to make sure life goes on and human beings are not immune to it. The following are tips for singles to help them find the love they deserve:
1. Stretch your neck daily to avoid whiplash from checking out all the attractive men or women out there. To learn proper neck stretches, ask your chiropractor, buy a book, surf the Internet, or join a yoga class.
2. Remember to smile and make eye contact when out in public. It makes it much easier for that attractive stranger to approach you.
3. Wear clothing, jewelry, or a button that will attract attention. For example – a colorful tie, an unusual saying on a T-shirt, or a beautiful necklace. This will help the opposite sex to have something to say besides “Hey, Babe.”
4. For the first few dates meet someone in a public place in order to get to know if they are safe and sane. Do not give out personal information such as place of residence, home phone number, or social security until they have been proven worthy to receive that information.
5. Singles use a positive attitude when dating, enjoy the moment, and let go of the thought that this could be the one.
6. For those who are having trouble meeting anyone, try the following – interesting classes and workshops, dancing, gyms, sporting events, flea markets, clubs, singles events, the personals, a matchmaker, or go to a dating consultant.
7. Remember the saying “don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” It is important to take the time to check out several baskets. This way singles can evaluate which baskets their eggs will go rotten and “the one basket” where their eggs will become golden.
Copyright 2005
* These tips can be used in the summer, fall, and winter!
Enjoy the Holidays Being Single
This year when someone asks you the dreaded questions – do you have a boyfriend or how come you are not married? Answer them with an unexpected reply, “I’m having a blast being single during the holidays.”
Unfortunately for single women, society treats being single as if it is a disease. Because of this many ladies stay in dead end relationships or find a temporary mate just to avoid being alone during the holidays. I even heard one woman say “at least I’ll get a Christmas present from a man this year.” What a horrible reason to stay in a relationship and how unfair and cruel that is to the man.
Instead of taking a hostage, being stuck in a bad relationship, or prostituting yourself for a present, try being single this holiday season. Here are some of the advantages of being single:
1. So many men, so little time. Image all those good looking men you can flirt with at all those holiday’s parties.
2. There are fewer obligations on your time. You are not stuck going to “their” family and work functions, when staying at home and clipping your toe nails would be so much more exciting.
3. Say goodbye to doing “their” holiday preparation, when you have not even started with your own shopping.
4. Not only do you save money on a gift, but you are also spared the disappointment of wondering what were they thinking of, upon opening up your present.
It is better to be alone than stuck with a man who makes you unhappy. Who knows, maybe next year, someone special will come into your life?! Someone so special that going to “their” stuffy work party will seem exciting.
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Give the Gift of Love for the Holidays By: Pamela B. Cummins
People are running all over town or searching the Internet to find the perfect gift. Some are putting themselves into debt for expensive gifts to show how much they care. Fights are breaking out in the stores because it’s the last item. Why go through all those headaches, when the greatest gift, LOVE, does not cost a thing?
Whether you’re Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Agnostic, Pagan, New Ager, etc., we all want to be loved. Even animals and plants thrive on love. So how do you give love for the holidays? The following will give you some ideas:
* Make crafty gifts, bake homemade goods, cook a meal, or give a back massage. Most people agree those are the best types of gift, because the giver does what they do best and it comes from the heart.
* Spend time with a family member - talk, play games, baby sit, help clean or cook, fix things in their home, walk the dog, or go out to eat.
* Volunteer for a cause that is important to you.
* Clean out your closets and donate your clothes. Give away those old nonperishable food items that are in your cabinets. This is a good gift to give not only during the holiday, but all year round.
* Meet friends for coffee or a meal. Time spent together is more important than a gift.
* Put on a show, read a poem or story, or sing for family and friends.
* Have a positive attitude, smile, and be kind to everyone, no matter what they do. Positive energy creates more positive energy. What a gift to give to the world!
Think of all those long lines, packed malls, hours spent on line, and debt you have avoided. What do you do for those who complain that you’re cheap? Smile; let them know that love is worth millions!
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Ode to Midnite28th October, 2008Author: Pamela x7867 x7867
Site: http://www.psychicsource.com/Psychics/Profile.aspx?PsyID=371
Animals are God’s greatest gift to humans. Pet owners will learn the lesson of unconditional love that animals give. Unlike humans, pets love their owners for who they are at any given moment. Whether we are having a bad hair day, are in a bad mood, or are being mean to them, they still love us.
Pets can also drive us crazy. They will poop or puke on our clean carpet, destroy our property, whine or cry, and wake us up in the middle of night or crack of dawn. They do not always behave the way we want way we want, for example, beg for food or want attention when we are busy. Dogs bark when we are on the phone or watching a real good TV show. Cats love to lie on the keyboard or tarot cards when we are working. Love them anyway, they teach us so much and it is our pleasure to serve them.
If you are very lucky, God might gift you with an extremely special, soul mate relationship with a pet, which will be unique to all your other pets. I was fortunate to have that with my kitty, Midnite. We communicated very well with each other. I understood her different meows and body language. We would communicate telepathically with each other. I can’t tell you how many times she would join in my meditations when I was in church or other groups of people. She understood a huge vocabulary of words and loved when I spoke to her in baby talk. One friend commented when I got her in 12/99 (she was almost two), that I was teaching my cat “Bad English”. Yet another friend recently thanked me, because I taught her to talk to animals like they are human.
Midnite taught me to enjoy sitting in the sun, to slow down & enjoy the moment, and to enjoy good food. She also taught me to enjoy playing with her and allowing my inner child out. Most important was the lesson of our lovey, dovey time and the unconditional love we shared.
Because of my psychic abilities it was easier to understand the message Midnite and my angels were sending me. In a dream I was informed of her upcoming passage. Over the next few days when I chose tarot cards concerning Midnite I would get transformation, completion, sadness, and moving forward, no matter how many times I tried to change it.
Midnite ended up crossing over in my arms on 10/11/2008 as I sang, kissed, & stroked her. In my grief, I‘m not sure of the time of her exact passing. I would like to believe that it was at a point when we were heart to heart and I felt such peace, love, and acceptance. That night Midnite came to me in my dream. She was purring happily and rubbed up against my leg. When I reached out to pet and hold her, she jumped up on my window sill and disappeared. She was letting me know that she was happy and free.
In closing, I’d like to say love your animals even when they stain the carpet. Do your best to spend as much time with them as possible, enjoy the moment, and love them. Midnite, I love you, you are in Momma’s heart for ever. It is better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all.
Use Your Intuition in Love9th October, 2008 - Author: Pamela x7867
Site: http://www.psychicsource.com/Psychics/Profile.aspx?PsyID=371
Ah amore! It is one of the most popular topics discussed in a psychic reading. Being a Libra (the sign of partnership), I have always had a fascination with love and relationships. Unfortunately when it comes to romantic love, humans tend to put on their rose colored glasses and are impatient with timing and ignore their intuition.
So what is intuition? Intuition can be a gut feeling, an unexplained knowing, a vision, or a voice giving us direction. Intuition comes quickly, can be very soft and gentle, and often makes no sense or cannot be backed up with proof. Our ego is very LOUD, and it is backed up with so-called proof, and can explain away just about anything. Of all God’s creatures, we humans ignore our intuition the most. I often say: if you see all kinds of animals and birds running in one direction, don’t be foolish enough to let your ego guide you in the opposite direction.
Intuition can be very helpful when it comes to dating. The majority of the time our intuition will let us know whether or not we would be interested in accepting a first date or going on a second. That is when the chatter gets in the way, some examples are – so and so said they were nice, I don’t want to hurt their feelings, they are such a nice person maybe the attraction will come. Sometimes confusion does get in the way, so give that person another chance on a second or third date. For those of you who are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings, here is a great line a blind date gifted me to use and pass on to my clients, “You are a very nice person, but it’s just not clicking for me.”
Intuition is useful when you are debating if you should stay in a relationship and if the relationship is going anywhere. Deep down inside we know (in fact, some of our clients just need validation from a psychic), but this is the time when feelings, impatience, logic, and desires get in the way. Here’s an exercise that can help:
Take a deep breathe, clear your mind of the chatter, and go to place that makes you feel safe (the beach, woods, house, etc.). Stay there for a few minutes. When you reach a relaxed state, ask yourself what you need to do with your relationship. Don’t force the answer, allow it to come. Trust what you are receiving. If you do not get an answer, know that it will come later when you least expect it. The answer could even come in a dream.
The hardest thing to do with intuition is to trust it and to follow it through, as any of us psychics advisors on Psychic Source will tell you. Do it anyway (no matter what your friends and family say), you will be amazed at the results.
Last but definitely not least, if your intuition ever tells you that you are in danger with a date or a mate – LISTEN TO IT! Countless date rapes and abusive relationships could be avoided if we humans listen to our intuition. Unless we are foolish enough to go in the direction that all those animals and birds running and flying from, only to discover a huge fire… Visit our Love Psychics page to learn more.
12/19/09
Trust the Information You Receive
My clients often ask me if they could have psychic abilities. I always respond with the following:
Compare psychic abilities to singing. We all can sing, with exception to those who are mute. Some people are extraordinary singers from birth, others are gifted singers who become extraordinary with singing lessons and practice, there are average singers and as for the rest - pray that they don't sing! I also tell them that the biggest obstacle to overcome is to trust the information that they receive. I know it was for me, since I am that gifted psychic who needed lessons and practice in order to be confident with my gift.
The next question my clients will ask is how do I tell the difference between my intuition and my ego? The ego is very loud, knows all the answers, and will give lots of reasons why it is right. Intuition is very soft, appears very quickly, and doesn't always make sense. Intuition also comes in many forms; hearing, feeling, seeing, a gut knowing, or smelling a particular scent. One way to learn the difference between the ego and intuition is to carry a small notebook with you. When you think you are having an intuitive moment, write the information down, in what form it came, and the time and date when it came. This way you have confirmation when you are right.
I have learnt to trust the information I receive, even when a client tells me I'm wrong, that couldn't happen, or they have no idea what I'm talking about. I respond by saying this is the information my angels are giving me and often the information is repeated to me. I tell them to put it in the back of their mind; it could make sense in the future. On one line I work for I occasionally have people hang up on me. The first couple of times it happened, I was devastated! I had to learn to develop a thick skin for hanger uppers. I now know that with those particular clients either I touched a sensitive button, and didn't say what they wanted to hear, or they are in denial.
Here is one example of how I said something to a client she didn't believe at the time. A few months later she called me and asked if I remembered saying the following to her. I often forget what I say during a reading, so I had no idea what she was talking about. It turns out that I told her that her sister from CA was coming for a visit to NJ very soon. She had just seen her in CA a few weeks before and told me her sister had no plans of coming out here. Fast forward a month or so, she was having surgery and her sister came out for a surprise visit!
Another example is a personal one. I always get a reading for my birthday October 3rd. I like to write the information down, so I can refer to it later. Three Octobers ago, I had a psychic tell me that when I go shopping, to shop for pretty patterns, I had no idea what she was talking about. A few weeks later I learned how to make jewelry and became obsessed with it. When I reread the reading a few months later, it occurred to me the pretty patterns she was talking about were beads!
In conclusion I like to say that always trust the information you receive. Believe that it will become clear in the future; even when the whole world is says no.
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